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If you have streamlined yourselves to a certain extent this is possible. Following are some steps that you can adopt to your ways to win an ex back. Be kind & calm: Always be kind and sympathetic. Don’t try to reopen your old histories and wounds that might cause distress in your ex. When ever you feel that that you are angry or nervous take a deep breath and leave that slowly. Another step is count 100 to 1 very slowly. USE LACP : You may use the Technique of LACP. (Listen, Acknowledge, Counter & Proceed). First of all Listen to what the other party is saying. Acknowledge to what he/she has said (valid point, great, fantastic, good one). Now counter with reasons if required. And proceed with questions and inquiries. Speak OUT: Always be open with your ex. Speak what you feel. Don’t keep it with you. good or bad. Start with a positive. Don’t criticize. Other side: This is the best method to express your feelings and emotions. Ask the other party to think how he/she would have felt if the same is done to him/her Don’t expect too much from your ex. He/she is all the same person. Try to love the plus and minus of a person. Honesty is the best policy. Its always hard to be honest. But be honest. Honesty saves you from the grave.